For as long as I can remember, Summer has been the season to dread; at least for me! For some reason, the moment I left childhood and entered the wonderful world of “adulting”, the summer season seemed to have it out for me!
To this very day, in my life, summer times means that I bring home less income, which means we spend a great part of the summer trying to figure out how we are going to make money stretch to pay bills. No matter where we go or what we do it is almost ALWAYS hot! I’m not just speaking about the temperature outside. I mean, even indoors! No matter the home I’m living in, No matter how well I believe the Air conditioner ran before the heat of July comes upon us, I find it that our AC was simply not built for it. Why is summer hard me? I have no Idea but even though I try not to publicly talk about how much a loath those months for that reason, It still turns out to be very trying for me. Now, the good thing is, we always survive summer. By August, we often barely remember the misery that came upon us that summer but we are glad that it’s over.
As I started learning about law of attraction, I began to ask myself. “Is it that Summer is so horrible or have I become conditioned to believing that its horrible and the time that can be spent resting and enjoying what naturally happens in the season is spent in stomach knots because of the things that have happened in the past?” God knows I don’t actually want a repeat of some of those things!
When I think about Mercury Retrograde, I remember my introduction to this natural phenomenon that seems to happen several times a year. I didn’t ask for any of the craziness to be true about it. I just looked up one day and realized some things were going a little hay wire and heard a lot about the retrograde and adopted the planets bad rep for myself! So, in most circles, this retrograde can be seen much like my summer months; Hell Waiting to burst wide open! We brace for it. We have nightmares about it. We even begin to analyze our closest friends and family by orbital rotation of this planet. Although I’ve come to dread the season that causes me (what I feel) is undue drama, I have to ask, are we giving the Mercury Retrograde too much credit? Are we misunderstanding the role and function of this season and are simply pouting because this particular season “does not” let have our way. It is here to do its job and there is nothing you can do to stop it.
Its been said that during retrograde you must avoid starting or ending relationships, making any huge major commitments I.e signing contracts and etc. And since mercury rules commerce this may not be the best time to make large purchases or go to Walmart (is there ever a good time to go to Walmart, though?). Do you remember that guy/girl you ghosted a few months back? Well during the retrograde there is a good chance he/she may pop up. There maybe a pop of other individuals from prior relationships that you may or may not be happy to see. There are so many cautionary tales that correspond with a Mercury Retrograde, that those of us who truly experience these symptoms decide to shelter in place and hunker down until it is over. However, we can take these series of “do not’s” that we are often given during retrograde and look at the meaning from a different perspective.
For me, its not even about planetary alignments any more but what I feel energetically and sometimes this does coincide with a major planetary shift. When I feel the winds of change shifting around me, energetically, especially in a time where every things is just freaking HARD! I take that as my cue to rest. Honestly, if weren’t going against the grain of what is going on around us energetically, would Mercury retrograde be such a life shattering moment in the lives of so many? Since communication can be a major issue during a retrograde, what if we decided to designate this time, to our friends and loved ones, a month of self care. A month where you no longer feel obligated to show up or show out and its understood! This fix, can also solve the issues of travel during a retrograde. Many people simply see the worst side of traffic during this time. Well, If you aren’t going any place because you’ve dedicated this time as self care month, then you don’t have to worry about traffic. For those of us who no choice to drive, giving yourself extra extra extra time to leave and simply enjoy the music in your car, your favorite podcast and even the alone time you get from just sitting in your car a few extra moments (This is my favorite hide out!)
Look, I’m not so naive to think that every one can just drop what they are doing and go and take a sabbatical in the woods until all is right with the world. All I’m saying is look for the opportunities to take advantage of what this season may bring in every way you can! If you are in a position to say No. Then by all means, do it! If you don’t feel like going, don’t go! If that relationship is getting a little dicey, take this time and call a grown up time out. I’m assuming everyone who is reading is in a mature relationship, so It should be nothing to say “honey, I’m feeling a little blah lately and I know we like hanging out together but I need a little break from having to be present in this relationship. No, I am not breaking up with you I just don’t want the craziness in my life to affect this good thing we have.” Can you still hang out and watch movies? Yes! But is this a time to talk about the future of your relationship? NO! If you are going to remain playful and active in your relationship during this time. This should be the most playful moon cycle of your LIFE! Have fun! Break out the games! Try an excessive amount of Netflix and chill! Anything to avoid any serious issues, as to not cause the inevitable drama surge that WILL happen.
Of course for those of us who work in Corporate America, this Idea is easier said than done but I strongly urge you to commune with Spirit, God, Your Higher Self or whomever your higher power is about how you can implement a rest strategy into this season.
All of my examples can be summed down to this very simple statement. “Go with the flow” the Mercury Retrograde just like my summers, aren’t to be feared and dreaded but embraced as the time that you give yourself a pass to owe nobody nothing! To take care of you first and do what feels natural to you. I’ve come to realized that many of the major issues with retrograde season is our resistance to it. We continue to try to muscle through life as usual knowing and feeling that things are not right. But this is simply an attempt to control and make certain things bend to our will. Below is a bible verse written by King Solomon, who was considered a very wise king who lived a very long time. His observation about life in this scripture beautifully describes how we should approach and receive every season in our life.
“Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 American Standard Version (ASV)
3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every [a]purpose under heaven: 2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.”
In summery, I truly feel that the real issue with retrograde season or even your personal seasons that come around that are difficult for you, like summers for me, Is not what is happening naturally and energetically around us but our failure to be sensitive to it and make the proper adjustments to our life. Could you be missing a season of downloads and integrations because you simply refuse to sit still? Are you prone to making hasty decision that always blow up in your face simply because you feel like you HAVE TO DO SOMETHING! Is the idea of just allowing this season to do what its designed to do, for you personally, such a paralyzing idea? Then my friend, this blog is written specifically for you. Do yourself and the rest of the world a favor and take a chill pill. Use this time to react less, observe more and go with the energetic flow. But by all means, don’t push against the grain! Taking this approach may seem a little counter intuitive at first but you will find your stride and soon you will be more moved by your individual energy and not fearful of the energy of planetary shifts. ~Blessed Be